An Article From a Young Man.

As I was checking my E-mails last night after finishing my article writing job, I stumbled upon an e-mail from a cousin of mine. Usually, I deleted messages right away because my inbox is always flooded with Facebook notifications. This time, even I was drowsy and craving for my pillows and the warm embrace of my wife, I took the time to read all messages I have received. My cousin forwarded me a copy of an article submitted by her son to his school’s newsletter. As I was reading it, it came to me that my nephew was a man compared to other men that I have known.

WHY?

Read his article……..

“I’ve Learned Change”

Jaemar Abangan

    I've learned that I change each and every day. How and to what I change depend on the decisions that I make. Even if some of the decisions I make are small like whether or not to say hi or not to someone you meet the outcome of these decisions make up who I am and to what I am to become. Truly the DECISIONS I make CHANGE me.
    As to what I become is my own responsibility. Others did not decide and do the actions that change me. I myself decided my own destiny. I myself decided how I acted, behaved, responded, and thought. I am a product of my own decisions.
     I became who I am not because I HAD to or because I NEEDED to but because I CHOOSE to be who I am. I could say that I made most of my decisions because of a NEED or a "Pressure" but now I would say that's wrong. I did not decide because I HAD to or NEEDED or was I PRESSURED to do so but because I CHOOSE to be the SUBJECT of that NEED or CIRCUMSTANCE.
     I am aware that even though these decisions I have made were products of a "PRESSURE" they have still became a part of who I am right now. I used to say that I am like this because of OTHERS but how wrong was I. I am myself because of ME.
     With this in mind I am striving to become aware on how I DECIDE and ultimately how I CHANGE. If I change for the worst than IT'S my fault. It's not the fault of my parents, friends, and the people around me. I choose to change for the worst.
     The changes I made in the past also affect the changes I will make in the future. BUT if I am aware of this than I may know how to BREAK FREE from my PAST. Instead of continuously changing for the worst I would start to decide for the better and ultimately change myself for the better.
     If only we all know of this than maybe somehow all of us might become AWARE that we ourselves are responsible for the misgivings of our society. It is MY fault our country and somehow the world is like this. If we know about these than maybe we could all start to change for the better.
     If we change ourselves for the better we change our surroundings and this will have a ripple effect. If we change ourselves the consequences of the decisions we make change our family, friends, and the people around us than ultimately our community than our country until the whole world.
       So I'll go and make the right decisions no matter how small. For even though the decisions I make are either big or small these will change me for the better or the worst. So right now I go as a man with a quest. I go with the mission of changing the world one step at a time starting with me. So I go heart firm and spirit strong for the cause I fight is the cause of all who seek good….
      
   
      

The Truth Behind the Words of Men

Men are not very vocal on how they literally feel. It would take time for a woman to decipher the words or phrase that comes out from a man. Some of it may be the real deal but women still takes it differently.

At the end of a date:

What Men says: “I’ll call you sometime”
What Men really means: “Don’t call. I may be out with another chick”
Why Men say it: It is really hard for men to be blatant on how they really feel about the date. They just don’t want to brush off a woman in order to keep her as a spare tire for future company on lonely Friday nights.

Getting to know each other:

What Men says: “I like your dress/shoes”
What Men really means: “I like you, could we go out sometime?”
Why Men hide it: Let’s say he really like your dress or shoes. However, this is a sign that he is really interested in you but does not want to come out too forward. Also, men tend to hide his feelings in order not to be turned down immediately if the feeling is not that mutual.

On relationship matters:

What Men says: “Maybe we should slow things down or take a break from each other”
What Men really means: “I want to keep my relationship options open in the market”
Why Men Lie: Men are cruel at this point. They just lie on this matter for one good reason. They just want to shop around for other open targets and if the chances are slim, you would always be around to accept him back with arms wide open.

What Men says: “I do not deserve you”
What Men really means: “I need to bolt out from this relationship”
Why Men Lie: Men are typically afraid of long emotional talks, especially regarding “breakups”. They prefer to butter you up, put you on the pedestal in order for them to keep the “Gentleman” image he always wanted to portray.

What Men says: “I’m falling for you”
What Men really means: “I love you, but I am quite afraid of saying the L word because you might not say it back”
Why Men hide it: This is the most common technique while testing the waters and feel if you are in the same emotional state with him.

So, women be wary with men. Or is it vice versa? hmmmmmm.........